Yeah, he did write THE sweetest breakup letter EVER...
I quote: "...I have agonized over this for some time and have come to the conclusion that I cannot quite seem to get over the body art. This handicap is not something that I am proud of but I cannot seem to shake it off.
The expression of interest and admiration place upon me a large responsibility to do the right thing. It would be very, very selfish of me to exploit that and simply be in the relationship for the extraordinary sex. However, that is not really me. The best thing that I can do is to simply lay it out for you."
I wrote back to him: "...Thank you for your thoughtful and thought-provoking letter. It is actually a relief to receive it, because I sensed that something was wrong, or bothering you. Naming it makes it easier to deal with.
I do care about you, very deeply, as I'm sure you have suspected. A good deal of this caring has been shown by paradoxically leaving you alone to think about things. My "female intuition" was telling me that something was wrong. You are a wonderful, kind, caring, sensual, compassionate, happy and intelligent man. It is a joy for me to be around you.
But the bottom line is that (deep sigh here) if something about me is distasteful to you, a long-term relationship is doomed from the start.
It doesn't mean that you are a bad person or that I am a bad person. From one adult to another, it just means that things do not work out for you. And that is ok.
You are just telling me the truth, and living with authenticity, honesty, and integrity is the only right path.
My multiple surgeries and subsequent medical treatments took a lot away from me as a person. It made me feel that I was no longer in "control" of my own body. Body art and modifications give me my sense of control back. I feel empowered when I can withstand 6 hours of having someone carve a tattoo into my skin, knowing that I am choosing to do this, and that afterward, I will have something that I have chosen, and not a scar, or a painful recovery process waiting for word from a pathologist on the outcome on a biopsy."
I want to learn the ways of the Force and become a Jedi Knight, the same as my Father.
STAR WARS (1977)