Ben W. wrote:Chuck,
There's a high possibility your post might have saved my life. Or, at the very least, deterred me from doing something drastic. I'm frightened of money, but more importantly, I'm frightened of those who want it, and those who already have it.
If anyone else here has ever read SEIZE THE DAY (or seen the movie)...well, let's just say the lead character's father is the one kind of human being I fear the most, and loathe the most. I couldn't share the same room with such a person without murdering them instantly, inevitable life sentence be damned.
Ben -- This is one of my all-time favorite films. I know precisely the character you reference and feel exactly the same.
They key is to understand that they are too far gone to really deal effectively with, and the damage they do can only be mitigated. The best way I've found is to support the people they impact, and leave the "father-types" the fuck alone. It's served me well over the years.
It seems that someone like the father is adversely impacting your life.
Obviously we don't know and should not ask for the details, but the best course of action is to wait for time to fill in those gut-churning moments of terror. I used to have them at 2am, when nothing could be done save my worry myself into hours of insomnia and accomplish nothing. Then, in the morning, I was usually surprised at how different things looked.
I figure this is advice you've heard repeatedly from others, but reinforcing the message is never a bad idea.
As Keeney says: please stick around.