Rantage part who knows what

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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Moderator » Wed Dec 02, 2009 11:38 am

"We're dating."

"He's my boyfriend."

"We're in a relationship."

"I'm seeing..."

"My ex..."
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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Lori Koonce » Wed Dec 02, 2009 2:04 pm

Barber wrote:"We're dating."

"He's my boyfriend."

"We're in a relationship."

"I'm seeing..."

"My ex..."



(look of total confusion)

HUH?

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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Lori Koonce » Wed Dec 02, 2009 2:15 pm

Ezra Lb. wrote:My friend and work colleague Hema, being the offspring of a brahmin from Bengal (no not the beginning of a joke), was the beneficiary of an arranged marriage, thirty years and going.

This kind of thing offends our romantic sensibilities but it seems to me a perfectly valid approach. Hema and her betrothed learned to love each other through their marriage.

We want celestial choirs and the magic moment when we knew we were destined for all time to be each other's one and only. And this occasionally happens but only occasionally, mostly in the stories. And because we hold this to be our ideal most of us are doomed to go through life frustrated and disappointed when it never happens to us. We feel that there must be something wrong with us. It couldn't be that we simply have unrealistic expectations.

Who's NOT needy in some way? Who doesn't need warmth and friendship and sex? This is not a weakness. It's certainly not something to be cured of.



See Ezra here's the whole thing in a nutshell: I want a man who celebrates my strengths and will help me shore up those weakess I have where he can.

I've long ago given up on looking for my prince, I'd settle for his vallet if he had the qualities I'm looking for. I think all women wantt he fairy tale, but those who are the happiest are the ones who realize that it will never happen.

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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Moderator » Wed Dec 02, 2009 5:53 pm

Lori Koonce wrote:
Barber wrote:"We're dating."

"He's my boyfriend."

"We're in a relationship."

"I'm seeing..."

"My ex..."



(look of total confusion)

HUH?



The progression of how (some) relationships go. (Variation on an old joke.)
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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Lori Koonce » Wed Dec 02, 2009 6:18 pm

Barber wrote:
Lori Koonce wrote:
Barber wrote:"We're dating."

"He's my boyfriend."

"We're in a relationship."

"I'm seeing..."

"My ex..."



(look of total confusion)

HUH?



The progression of how (some) relationships go. (Variation on an old joke.)


Coffee hadn't kicked in when I read that earlier! *giggle*

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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Lori Koonce » Wed Dec 02, 2009 7:37 pm

Man gang

Seems everything in my life is conspiring against me this week. Even my one and only really truly helpful refuges is hitting me between the eyes.

I am a Stones fan. And can someone explain to me why, when I'm kinda at 6's and 7's with my relationship atitude Emotional Rescue has to be playing. Because I'm honest with you all that's what I'm looking for.

Just that one person to take me out of myself for awhile. So I don't have to look at that mess of emotinality i have to call a soul. Just for a little bit.

Now I know that's not practical or really even deserible. But it's where I am feeling wise. so there we go.

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Postby Jan » Thu Dec 03, 2009 5:24 am

given up on looking for my prince, I'd settle for his vallet if he had the qualities

Do you mean his wallet or his valet? I have a wallet but I'm not a prince.
Or does he need to have a valley? No response necessary but you should clarify it in your mind. :)

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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby NeonMosfet » Thu Dec 03, 2009 10:47 am

There are no princes, at least not in this country. The best we can hope for is someone who appreciates our strengths, and is amused by our weaknesses. Sometimes, someone who finds a solution is helpful.

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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Ezra Lb. » Thu Dec 03, 2009 12:41 pm

Neon wrote

There are no princes, at least not in this country.

No, but there are court jesters a'plenty. And ladies, wouldn't you rather have someone who makes you laugh than someone who just looks good in a suit? Over the long haul I mean...Of course you enjoy pounding a little beefcake now and then but we goobers need loving too... :)
“We must not always talk in the marketplace,” Hester Prynne said, “of what happens to us in the forest.”
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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Lori Koonce » Thu Dec 03, 2009 1:53 pm

Ezra Lb. wrote:Neon wrote

There are no princes, at least not in this country.

No, but there are court jesters a'plenty. And ladies, wouldn't you rather have someone who makes you laugh than someone who just looks good in a suit? Over the long haul I mean...Of course you enjoy pounding a little beefcake now and then but we goobers need loving too... :)


Can I have a court Jester who looks good in a suit? Or is that asking too much of this life. :lol:

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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Moderator » Thu Dec 03, 2009 1:55 pm

Lori --

Cris just told me that her brother, who is at the tail end of a nasty divorce, went on Match.com a month ago and he's already met a woman he really likes. They have had five dates and all goes well so far.

Just a thought.
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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Lori Koonce » Thu Dec 03, 2009 3:33 pm

Dude, That's what I can start bugging my dad for for my birthday.

It's a little late to start my usual Christmas gift begging.

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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Lori Koonce » Thu Dec 03, 2009 4:26 pm

Frank

I don't care what they say. Under that hardened cynical shell is a total softy.

Thanks for the song, it didn't calm me down, but it did put a few things in prespective, which is just as good.

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Re: Rantage part who knows what

Postby Steve Evil » Fri Dec 04, 2009 12:46 pm

My closest friend met his wife online. Another very close friend met his wife-to-be online. Their courtship wasn't conducted online-that would be silly - but the intial introduction and first date were arranged online. Unca Harlan himself once wrote a favorable essay on "video-dating" (his answers on the form were an absolute hoot!). So these things happen.

In the meantime, there's Rock and Roll.


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